About fifteen years ago a social trend emerged that focussed on a person finding their authentic self. I remember reading self help books with friends and working through the exercises to discover "who" I truly was or was becoming. At that time my children were leaving the nest, and I felt rather bereft of the person I had been for so many years.
It's telling to me that now years later, I am actually learning and becoming that authentic person I "tried" to discover so long ago.
Age and life's circumstantial situations are great teachers. I have attempted to change myself over the years. Yet my true nature emerges as I move forward in life.
I am first and foremost a Christian. I think about our triune God daily, and throughout each day. I am in conversation and prayer with Him during my days and I live my regular existence praising, thanking, and petitioning Him on any and every need or concern that arises. It's like drinking water or breathing air to me. Just an essence that sustains me. I read His word. I try to stay aware that everything I have, am or will be is only due to his grace and mercy.
Now, that doesn't mean I don't make plenty of mistakes and faux pas. You show me a Christian and I will show you a person who will be a constant project throughout their existence.
Next, I am a mom and wife and hopefully a good friend. Loving others is very essential to me.
I recently have unearthed another part of myself I thought I had rather lost. In my past, my raising kids years, I tended to be assertive in multiple roles. Leadership opportunities just landed in my lap. I think it's because I am at my core an impatient individual. I am curious and want answers. I don't like waiting for them, so I work through problems to discover the answers. For several years I tried to tamp down this trait. Let others make the decisions and sit on the back burner rather than make waves around me. I was always feeling a bit lost, but somehow I thought being more meek and biddable would be best for others around me, allowing them to take charge of my environment. This summer, I changed my mind. I stopped acquiescing when giving my opinion and became my forthright self again. Oh boy does it feel good!!!!! I started working with the city to get city water offered to my subdivision, and I got busy figuring out what improvements I want to add to my home to enjoy here the next twenty plus years. Taking the initiative is helping me to embrace my true impatient nature. My ultimate authenticity.
What my lifework is showing me is that to be my authentic self I need to first embrace my spiritual connection, Christ, then I need to envelop my God given nature and the gifts He has blessed me with; my organizational, impatient, and earnest self. So, the big lesson is, you can't change your authentic self and you shouldn't. It's not something to "find" like I thought in the 2010's of my younger self. It comes from knowing the creator of the person you are, then taking what He gave you and using it.
My hope is that anyone that reads this can spend some time pondering their own authentic selves and the gifts they have been blessed with from our great God. 💓 Figure out how to use those talents and be the person you were created to be! 😊